Would someone please explain me how does it work? On one hand, I am being taught to wear a mask every time I step outside the house and on the other, I am being expected to be myself. Is it about surviving out there without losing your identity, or does it involve getting your work done even when you dislike the person you are dealing with. As much as I would hate to agree with the latter, what choice do I have considering the quixotic connotations of the former?
Even if I like someone and can't visit or meet him for certain genuine reasons, it is taken as a sign of my coldness and I am being taunted with phrases like--"So you got the time?" and "Did you forget your way?"-- when I do finally visit him. Now don't you think this behavior is actually fathering the aforementioned "coldness"? Next time even if I have the time to go and meet that person, I would think ten times before doing so,simply for the reason that I don't want to be baited again.So, it takes me to my next question, which is "Do I have to or should I do things which I can't or don't want to, just to be approved by the society?"
On the contrary, when I try to be social and talk nicely to everyone I am being termed as fake. Take for example the Sherlyn Chopra scenario in the ongoing Big Boss 3. During the first two weeks she was being herself and was joking and teasing everyone because of which she was nominated, and then during the next two weeks she was nice to everyone and tried to mix up with others, but she was nominated again,and this time for the reason that she was not being herself ,and is putting on an act.Now what does one do in such a scenario? Does it work like either you are "born social" or you are "forever antisocial"?
And finally, I would like to know what does one do when he can't reveal his anger to his object of antipathy? For example, say I did not approve the words of my teacher(or boss or friend), but I naturally can't unleash my anger on his face for the obvious reasons. Now I have got two options,either to keep that rage inside and ruin my sleep or talk it out with my friends or family--I can abuse that teacher or friend or I can justify how I was right and he was wrong--and feel palliated. Again, I opt for the latter,which takes me to my final question which is "Would you call this back-bitching or me being a double faced person?". Now, since I am being nice to that person (my teacher or boss or good friend) on their face--because I have no other choice-- and then afterwards abusing them behind their back, it does in fact fit in the definition of "back-bitching".
To sum it up then, I understand these questions might not have definitive answers and the answers to some might depend on the specific situation involved. Nonetheless, feel free to leave your opinions in the comments section.
9 comments:
Hmm.. nice topic to write on...
I guess we have been discussing this for the last 1 year on Gtalk ( very frequently , though in different forms :P )
But yes , i think its polite to be nice to people in front of them , but till a limit.
One can still saw what he feels without being rude or arrogant .
and yes , if u , anytime , want to vent out ur anger at any of the teachers or frnds , you know whom to ping on Gtalk :)
Finally , a nice post .. :)
keep it up
1.either follow a No-Assed approach to things, or a Full-Assed approach to things.Dont follow a half assed approach!
2. which means dont be a hypocrite.
3. You cannot always win.Some dick will kick you in some field or the other..so y hate anyone..instead take inspiration.
4. Chill..those who matter will "jhelo" you in any way you are.
5. Nice article.
Sherlyn was just a scape goat. Her KRK love did her in. I agree with harryz "No-Half-Assed" approach to life. Looking forward for more explaination in that topic @harry.
You know what, We re all hypocrites..!
You, me and just about everybody..!
Remember that line from the song 'Trading air' by Athlete which goes like :
"People hear what they want to hear,
but they wont change a thing,
no they don't change a thing."
We are all in this rat-race called life. And honestly, as far as I have observed,there are no room for your vulnerablities or your weaknesses in this place.
This is a harsh world and it gets worser everyday. Not that the world is a negative place, it does have its bright side, provided you know exactly how to react and deal with nutjobs..!
And trust me that "be yourself" is another meaningless sentence that tend to get cliched after a while.
I like to believe that "Be yourself" means more like "Bring out the best in you, be confident and be positive".
And a very thought provoking write up..!
And why is your blog pink..? :-P
@harry
Dude , WTF is a half -assed approach el-o-el :D
and the "jhelo" thing is wrong i think, u won't tolerate anyone if u don't like anything about him.
@aayush
yes i ll keep pinging ya ;)
@virtual group
KRK love was to get an offer for DeshDrohi 2 :-)
@Rush_ME
remember when i changed your Orkut Name to "Rush ME". Gosh ,you were so mad and look at you now . Ironical :-)
And well, yes i remember Trading Air.I sort of miss all the music you used to share with me.
And,as for the Pink Blog, I guess this "pink is for girls" is just another cliche invented by some insecure(about his masculinity) retard. So I couldn't care less about it :-) and in fact I like pink.
hmm.. so Sush is facing this dilemma which is in my opinion actually very perplexing. what i feel is that we need to accept this that v all are Hypocrites no second thoughts on that , But then in the same breath i would also like to say that you cannot survive in today's world if we are not. Start accepting to this fact is the only solution.
It's all about masks, which we are wearing every day.
At home you just can be yourself and on the street you have to be polite with everybody. Doesn't matter who is in front of you... teacher, friend or just some person you even don't know.. This always has been and always will be. This is human nature...
n yes.. i like that :)
this is vidhi......alli i'd like to say is tht firstly, it ws a gud post, and secondly, hypocrisy should be redefined. i dont think tht 'not expressing ur actual feelings' counts as hypocrisy.Changing colours like a chameleon isn't hypocrisy, faking urself to be a lizard is!....if u kno wat i mean!
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